I read this super funny article that really gets you thinking about our choices. Do we really have too many choices when it comes to finding a romantic partner? Some of you may not think so, but if you have ever done any online dating, you will completely agree. Check out the article to see what I mean.
What’s even more important, Aziz talks about what happens when people get out of that passionate stage. A huge majority of people check out after the initial passionate stage is over. Do people now-a-days really not take commitment seriously or do they just give up too easy? What do you think?
Question: I like an American girl who's a Christian. Being a Hindu guy, how do I approach her?
One thing I forgot to mention, She's very religious.
I don't know much about your religion but I do know that love can conquer all. If you take the religion thing out of your mind and see if you two can make a connection, everything else is figureoutable (as Marie Forleo would say). Luckily even if she is very religious, Christians don't put as much pressure on people that get in a relationship or marry outside of the religion as other religions do. If you get into a relationship with her, just respect her values and she can respect yours and it will work out just fine. See if you can make a connection first. That is the most important part. Good luck!!!
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Question Asked: I love my girlfriend but I am beginning to lose feeling for her. What can I do?
This is very hard for me to explain since it all started with a dream ( a nightmare actually). I dreamed that I once cheated on my girlfriend
and since then I've been losing attraction. Don't get me wrong, I love her, she's an amazing woman but lately I'm scared of my own feelings
towards her like something is pushing me to end the relationship, which is the thing I don't actually want. Before that, I was actually lookin
forward moving with her and be with her by all means but now it's like I can't feel that same way, like I've gotten used to her so much.. We'redating for almost 9 months now, could it be that the "butterflies" at the beginning of the relationship be replaced with more real life
feelings?I love her so much but I'm scared of all these negative thoughts i sometimes wish there was black and white but for me it's not. She'svery attractive, beautiful, smart, funny, all of these things it makes me feel scared and even cried when i think about what is missing. I
don't want to move on to another girl because I love her, it's just that I can't or I don't know anymore how to maintain the same feelings I'vehad at the beginning. Anyone dealt with the same thing here? And no, I don't want to break up, I'm just scared. please help!!
Answer From Robyn:
It is awesome that you are reaching out. A few things come to mind for me, first of all, unfortunately the butterfly "I'm so in love with you" feelings don't stay forever. Once those are over it turns into deep down love and respect of the person that you are with. There are things
that you can do to keep the juice alive though.
One of our human needs that we have to have is Uncertainty otherwise known as Variety. Now this doesn't mean a variety in partners but variety in your relationship. When a couple gets into routine with each other it dulls the passion. Couples really need to consistently do things that thrill, juice, or fulfill their partner. This could be keeping your partner's love tank full by the different love languages, or it can be
surprise dates, sexy outfits, flowers or whatever. From what I have seen and experienced is after a while of being together, couples don't
make-out any more unless they are having sex. If, for example, instead of the routine peck on the lips I Love You kiss goodbye in the morning, if there was a quick but passionate kiss in the morning, both of your days will be much brighter, wouldn't you agree?
When people are in dating mode, they purposely impress the other person. They dress nice, they open the doors, they do fun things to make sure they have a great time. After they have been together a while, the courting rituals slow down and usually stop. It would only be natural for
the juicy feelings to slowly dull out. Right?
A couple of things that you can do is to sit and remember what melted your heart with this girl. I have no doubt that in the beginning you
couldn't wait to see her again and you thought of her all day. Think about those feelings and really feel them all over again. Know looking
back at that time and now, what have you stopped doing and what has she stopped doing to juice each other? Talk to her and tell her that you
want to do those things again. If you two are on purpose, you can fall in love every day. Relationships just like life have to be worked on andgrowing or they are dying. You can't put the car in neutral and expect to get to your destination.
Another thing that you can do, since people will do more to avoid pain then they will to gain pleasure, is you can imagine that she just told
you that she was leaving you. She wasn't happy any more. Really experience this happening, feel it. If you have ever had a heartbreak before,
you know that you will start wanting her back more than anything else. You will think about what an amazing person she is and it kills you to
think about her being with someone else. You will think about all of the mistakes and you will kick yourself in the ass for letting her go.
Really feel this experience. Now write her a letter telling her from your core how you really feel about her, apologize for any mistakes that
you have made, how you think you two can get those amazing feelings back, etc. If you are ok with her breaking up with you, then you will know that she probably is not the right person for you.
I really hopes this helps.
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